Some years ago, my 9-year-old daughter, Katie, and her soccer team had just lost an elimination game in AYSO soccer. She was crying and looked distraught. I ran out on the field to console her and said, "Don't feel bad, you will have many more seasons to win."

She looked at me and said, "I'm not crying because my team lost, Dad. I'm sad because I won't get to see my friends on the team all the time."

In that moment I started to rethink the differential in parental perception and goals from that of their athletic children.

The first involvement in youth sports, usually soccer, can be a time of extraordinary empowerment for young people. It can also be a time that crushes self-esteem. This is the first experience in organized sports for children. It is the first time that they see real differences in comparative athletic talent. They may be on the same field with kids who have started a year or two late with larger bodies and more developed skill sets. What is the goal in their participation?

No one issues parents a driver's license to advise their kids in their sports experience. Do we tell young people to be like young " Vince Lombardi's" and win at all costs, or is participation and having fun the key? When a child is not getting much playing time, playing a position they don't like, the team is constantly losing, or they do not like the coach, what do we advise them to do? Be stoic, keep trying and learn character -- or assert themselves and complain in an effort to improve their situation?

Type-A parents are intervening across the country with behavior that ranges from screaming criticism from the stands, to yelling at coaches, to physically attacking coaches and umpires. They worry about their own pride, because their child's performance is a reflection on them, or insert adult ambition or anger into the situation. Children may listen to parent's admonitions, but more importantly they carefully watch how a parent acts. They may be uncomfortable or embarrassed by how their parent is behaving. Many kids quit youth sports because they don't like the pressure and drama.

Having represented professional athletes for 40 years and watching how hyper-competitive athletes do everything to win but treasure the experience, win or lose, provided a certain perspective. I spent years hitting ground balls, throwing the football, and kicking the ball with my kids and rooted for them, but that was it. I just tried to support them. Unless I was willing to coach or referee myself, I kept my opinions to myself. I tried to always remember -- this experience is for them, not me. They learn valuable life skills in sports -- real life will provide years of competition soon enough.

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Peter Chung remembers the exact University of Washington Huskies women's basketball game when his youngest daughter got hooked on the sport. They were sitting courtside for the first time, and the look on her face as she watched strong, talented women run up and down the court was priceless.

"I'll never forget the level of engagement I saw on her face," Chung says. "My youngest played with princesses and dolls, but through the dad-and-daughter program, I got to show her what these grown girls were doing. I also went to Washington and it's a great way to support the athletic program as well."

In the interest of full disclosure, Mr. Chung's automotive dealership in Edmonds, Wash., is the title sponsor for the University of Washington's annual "Dads and Daughters" program, which aims to provide unique opportunities for fathers and daughters to spend time together.

"We got involved because we were trying to find a way as an auto dealership to get involved and give back to the community," Chung says. "Our thought process was that we could build stronger communities by building stronger families. One of the needs we saw was that while boys would get really involved and go to Washington games with their dads, we didn't see a whole lot of dads bringing their daughters. So much of the great response we've been getting is from moms who are happy that their husbands are spending more time with their daughters."

Cameron Wong works for IMG, which is affiliated with the event, but he began taking his daughter to Washington basketball games prior to his current job.

"I remember bringing her to a few events in a Baby Bjorn," Wong says, laughing. "As my daughter grew up, she liked the atmosphere. There were other kids her age running around the stadium. And we got to watch the Washington girls play at the top of their game. It was very important to me for her to see other women who were independent and strong and successful."

Wong's daughter started playing basketball and volleyball recently as a result of the time she has spent with her dad at the Washington events.

"It helps to keep a lot of purple around the house," Wong says. "But I wanted my kids to be passionate about something and I want them to strive for college. I didn't want to hit them with just study, study, study. That's important, but for her to see these women playing and representing a university was also important to me."

Wong wanted his daughter to get the chance to watch women like Jazmine Davis play in person because it shows young girls how much having heart and confidence and determination matter.

"Jazmine Davis was a Freshman of the Year here at Washington," Wong says. "She has a huge heart and she's real gutsy. I want my kids to see that. That's how I was as an athlete. I wasn't real talented but I was scrappy. Ever since I showed my daughter how Davis played, it has rubbed off on her. She's now a very scrappy player too; she dives around and gets loose balls and uses all five fouls."

As for Chung, taking his daughter to games instilled in her an enjoyment that extended beyond basketball.

"I know she started thinking about playing sports through the dad and daughter program," Chung says. "And now she plays soccer and loves it. But she still loves basketball. Every single year when the girls basketball season starts she and her friend, who we've been going with to the games for several years, look at the calendar and start asking about which games they can go to."

But while the goal is to instill a love of basketball and sports in their kids, the events are for kids, and Wong says that despite all the basketball they have watched, his daughter's first favorite moment was when she got to take a photo with the University of Washington mascot and the cheerleaders.

"That photo has been on her wall ever since," Wong says. "It's a memory she'll always have."

Which, when it comes to the University of Washington "Dads and Daughters" program, is the whole point.

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Stephen Thompson became a Syracuse basketball legend for his high-flying attacks to the rim. He didn't have the greatest outside shooting touch, but constantly soaring toward the basket helped him rank second behind Bill Walton in all-time NCAA tournament shooting percentage at .684.

After a short stint in the NBA with Sacramento and Orlando, Thompson played pro ball in Europe and Japan before settling back in his hometown of Los Angeles. He has been head coach at Cal-State Los Angeles since 2005, and his sons Stephen Jr., a junior, and Ethan, a freshman, led Bishop Montgomery of Torrance to the Division IV state championship this season. His sons say they wish they had some of their dad's signature leaping ability, but Stephen says they are already better shooters than he was. As recruiters have begun to take notice of them, Thompson is just as proud of his sons' academic standing, which will expand their options when considering college offers. Here is more of their story:

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The Final Four will return to the Dallas area this year for the first time since 1986. That's when a freshman named Pervis Ellison led Louisville to the national title by posting 25 points and 11 rebounds in the championship game against Duke. Now Ellison's daughter, Aja, is on the verge of being a college freshman herself as she is headed to Maryland next season on a basketball scholarship. His son, Malik, is a year younger than Aja and is attracting plenty of college attention as well. Pervis has had a strong hand in their development, coaching Malik's high school team at Life Center Academy in New Jersey and Aja's AAU club. But perhaps more importantly, those coaching experiences have strengthened his fatherly relationship with the two. Here is more of their story:

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When Ross Newhan was on the baseball beat, one of the perks to the job was that he could bring his young son, David, to Spring Training, usually in Palm Springs with the Angels. Ross went on to become the national baseball writer for the Los Angeles Times, and in 2000, the Hall of Fame honored him with the Spink Award, which is the baseball equivalent of the Oscars. One year earlier, David had made his major league debut as a player with the Padres.

Ross never wrote about David in his column until 2004. That's when David was coming back from an injury that had sidelined him for more than a year. Playing for the Orioles, David returned to the majors two days before Father's Day. What happened next prompted Ross to write about his son professionally for the first time, and the column still resonates a decade later.

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The idea of shooting 100 percent from the foul line for an NBA season seems impossible, especially when you consider that an NBA star can get to the foul line 300 times or more in a given year. That's why when you scan Mark Price's career statistics and you see that ludicrous number, 100 percent, on his stat line, you hesitate to believe it, but then you figure, it's Mark Price, he's a four-time All-Star and one of the greatest shooters of all time, anything is possible.

Truth be told, he shot 100 percent during a year where he only took ten attempts, but the fact that you entertained the idea that he achieved percentage perfection speaks to his lofty shooting reputation – and to the hard fact that he shot about 95 percent from the line three times in his career.

So imagine that you're one of his sons at the foul line in a middle school, high school or college game. Every single shot is expected to drop.

"I've never put that pressure on my sons," Mark says. "But the reputation is there. My sons have had to deal with the good side and the bad side. But the truth is I played long enough ago that most of the kids my son's ages know me more from video games. They'll say, ‘my dad was playing you on a video game and he was killing me.'"

Price has four children including two daughters, one of whom is a tennis player at the University of North Carolina, and two sons, Josh, who is fifteen, and Hudson, who is currently a freshman at Texas Christian University.

"They grew up around basketball, obviously," he says. "And I coached Hudson in fourth, fifth and sixth grade."

After Price retired from the NBA he embarked on a coaching career that took him from middle school all the way to the pros. Coaching in the NBA can be a volatile situation with the almost inevitable firings, but one regime change worked to Price's benefit with his family. In 2012, Price lost his job as an assistant with Orlando when the team sacked coach Stan Van Gundy. But Price still had a year on his contract, so he had the blessing of being paid to watch Hudson play his senior season of high school and to coach Josh's seventh-grade team.

"I went back and coached a little in college and then in high school and then with kids," he says. "I was kind of going backwards, but now I'm back up the ladder. Whether you're dealing with 12- and 13-year-olds or 30-year olds, a lot of the coaching concepts are very similar."

Price is back in the NBA this season as an assistant coach with the Charlotte Bobcats, and when he works with his players to improve their shooting, he instills in them the same fundamentals that he was taught.

"Whether it's my son or anybody else, it's all a matter of putting the time in," he says. "The only thing that makes a good shooter is practice."

Of course, when you're practicing with your sons, you're not only building the fundamentals of basketball, you're also building your relationships as well.

"The fun part for me is getting to work with them," Price says. "Just getting in the gym by ourselves is great. When you're working out with your son and it's only the two of you without the pressure of the games, that's what I enjoy."

When the two play basketball, Price tries to keep the games to shooting contests, where he still has an advantage. He says his knees aren't in great shape so that keeps one-on-one off the table. Also, there's the issue of his son's size.

"Hudson is about 6-6 now and he can beat me up a little bit," he says.

Of his two sons, Hudson is the serious one who Price says takes all his advice to heart. His youngest, Josh, likes to fly by the seat of his pants.

"Josh will throw a pass behind his back, between his legs, wherever," Price says. "I might have to tell him to do something five times. Hudson will listen better."

Still, whether it's coaching his own kids or NBA professionals, you have to know the personalities you're dealing with to be an effective coach.

"You have to know what makes each player tick," he explains. "With my sons, they are different, but they are both fun to work with and I enjoy being with them so much. But the thing is, you can't make them love the game. You can't teach a love for it. That has to come from the person and the individual. Some guys like it. Some guys do it because they're good at it.

"With your own kids, you hope they fall in love with it. It's just a bond I have with them and it's the same one that I had with my dad, who was also a coach. We love sitting around talking about games and watching games together."

With one son playing at a major college program and another in high school, there should be plenty of game tape to watch ... or Hudson and Josh could simply enter "Mark Price" into a YouTube search if they really want to see some good ball. Their old man had game.

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St. Joseph's' run to the Atlantic-10 tournament title has catapulted the Hawks into the NCAA tournament as well as the hearts of basketball fans across the country.

During St. Joe's' championship matchup with VCU, coach Phil Martelli's 4-year-old grandson could be seen in the stands, adorably imitating the stance and look of his 59-year-old grandfather. The youngster, named Philip, even nails Martelli's gestures.

Here's a clip of Philip from Sunday's game:

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Out of context, the story of an NBA player pouring alcohol on a father holding his young son could be considered disastrous. But if that father is Ivica Dukan, his son is Duje, the NBA player is Scottie Pippen, and the context is that they were in the Chicago Bulls' locker room celebrating a world championship with champagne, well then, the only thing it could be considered is awesome.

"That was one of my favorite moments," says Duje Dukan, now a forward at Wisconsin. "It was after the fifth or sixth Bulls title and the team was celebrating. Scottie was pouring champagne on everyone and he came over to us. I tried to hold him off, but he dumped it on us."

Duje was only 5 or 6 years old at the time. He was in the locker room because his father, Ivica, is the Supervisor of European Scouting for the Bulls, a job he began almost 20 years ago, fresh off a 14-year pro basketball career that spanned England, Croatia, France and Switzerland.

The elder Dukan met the Bulls General Manager Jerry Krause at the European Championships in the early 1990s and that introduction eventually led to a job offer, which brought Dukan to Chicago with his young family.

"Duje grew up next to the Bulls’ practice facility," Ivica says. "Our house is two minutes from there. When I would come home from work, I never had to ask my wife where Duje was. I knew he was at the facility working out or practicing. Every night he’d go and play. He lived and breathed basketball as he grew up."

"When I was really little I'd go to Bulls practices and I’d see my dad interacting with Jordan and Pippen on a daily basis," Duje says. "I remember seeing how wrapped up he was in all of it. I was so young it was just a regular thing, but as I got older, I started to realize who Jordan and all of those guys really were. That's when I knew what an amazing opportunity it was."

As soon as Duje was old enough he became a ball boy for the Bulls organization, where he sat right behind the bench for most games. Every time someone subbed in or out he would take their warm-ups or give them a towel or get water. When the game was over, he was in charge of getting food or ice or whatever the players needed.

The bonus to being around the team so much was that he also got to be around his dad all the time too.

"Spending time in the gym together is where our game really evolved," he said. "I know it's a dream come true for him and even though he has to travel for work, he has been able to come to most of my home games at Wisconsin this year."

Then again, his dad is a scout, which means he can sometimes mix business with pleasure.

"I have so many good memories of watching him play," Ivica says. "When I watched him play internationally for Croatia, the country he was born in, that was special. He was also selected for a game with the top high school athletes in the world and I was there scouting, but also watching my son. That was neat."

As far as advice, Duje says that his dad has been a huge help for him in terms of telling him what he needs to do to prepare for basketball at a high level. He says that his dad always tells him to not get too high with the highs or too low with the lows, and to practice hard because you're only as good as your last practice.

Ivica also invites his son to watch tape of players with similar abilities as his own.

"A few years ago, when Gordon Hayward was coming out of Butler, he said I should model my game after him," Duje says. "So I watch game film of him with the Utah Jazz to incorporate what he does into my game. He’s a versatile big man and I try to pick up what he does to be effective."

So the question remains, when did the basketball scout first know that his son had serious talent?

"To be honest, I realized it right away when he was a freshman in high school," Ivica says. "He didn’t make varsity and he came home and he was devastated. I couldn’t believe how devastated he was. Then he kept working on his game every day and he played JV and then he was playing so well that by mid-season they asked him to play varsity. Then he was starting varsity and I knew he had a chance to be really good."

Ivica says he is blessed that his son shares his love of basketball and that he is lucky. Of course, Duje growing up watching Michael Jordan play in person every day didn't hurt.

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Dwayne Polee was the 2010 Los Angeles High School City Player of the Year. If the name and the honor have a familiar ring, it's because his dad, also Dwayne Polee, earned the same award in 1981. This season, Dwayne Polee II helped San Diego State reach No. 5 in the AP poll -- the second highest ranking in school history -- showing that college success also runs in the family. Two decades ago, Dwayne the elder, was a two-time West Coast Conference Player of the Year at Pepperdine and was drafted by the Clippers. He has been director of player development at University of San Francisco since 2012. Here is more of their story:

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Every so often baseball fans attending games with kids are presented with a tough choice: Go after a souvenir ball hit into the stands, or look out for the welfare of the young child that they were tasked to protect?

Sometimes, a fan can accomplish both of these goals. Sometimes, a fan fails on both accounts.

During a Spring Training game between the New York Mets and the Florida Marlins, a man in the outfield was pulling a child in a wagon when a ground-rule double ball bounced over the fence. In a moment of unfortunate indiscretion, the guy lets go of the wagon and runs after the ball.

What happened next is every mother's nightmare:

Fortunately for this guy, he appears to catch the kid just before the youngster crashes.

So while he did not get the souvenir, this man saved the tyke from a bad crash and became a viral sensation. At least he didn't come away empty-handed.

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